While there are certainly tougher things to accomplish with a man, often some women want an organized way to accomplish this.  Most men recognize that there are some women who need to hear how they feel and hear it earlier than they would normally offer it.  Other men view this – an acknowledgment of feelings – as being an instrumental element in their quest for a woman’s heart.  Where the challenge lies – for most women – is getting to the point of certainty about genuine feelings that usually lies well beyond simply being attracted to her.  Liking her – i.e. infatuation – is not “liking” the way a woman views it.  Getting to the point of genuine and intimate sharing of real feelings is what we are referring to here.

First, you should test the guy to see if you need any complex strategy.   Some Men are Right-brained and emotional and these are generally willing to share their feelings so you should just ask them.   Assuming that this is not the case – i.e. that you temped him and he did not take the bait – then you will have to orchestrate a more in-depth probe into his thinking.  Be pretty sure before you ask this as a direct question or it may cause him to feel that your question is highly premature.

You should begin by asking him how he feels about dating in general.   If none of this provokes any serious response offer your own ideas and opinions.  Eventually, if you are sincere and objective, you will begin to get a response.

You should offer some subtle hints about your feelings for him.  For men, this is often an important thing to do – priming the pump.  Many men will not reveal their true feelings for a woman unless and until they are sure of that woman’s feelings for him.   That is the real reason to let him know how much he care about him.

Do not be impatient.   It can take some men weeks to get around to actually letting you know how they feel about you.  If you continue to let him know in subtle ways what your feelings are he should eventually let down his guard and tell you his feelings.   Spending more time with him will also create a natural sense of togetherness that typically generates unguarded communication – even with the most elusive of masculine hearts.

If you are trying to get ex back from the breakup of a relationship that was devoid of shared feelings – or commitment – or if you are planning to win your ex back, a thorough understanding of these ways to get at his feelings will help to get ex back.